it's been a while

hey there everyone! i'm alive!!!

take some crazy busy days, some colds, some major allergies, some time off and the usual chaos and mix it all together and well? you don't get a helluva lotta time to blog.

i do have to say though that things seem to have taken a (knock on wood) turn for the more mellow and uneventful. i've also changed my focus and realized that i can't control the stupid factor, so i just enjoy the innocence factor with the 3 rugrats and all is well with the world.

seems that the pink twin is going to be the lucky recipient of major allergies. the past week she has been snotting and her eyes have been red, itchy, watery and very sensitive to the sunlight. we can't even play outside that long before she has an attack. mom got her claritin (although i mentioned she may want to talk to the doctor because i am positive she will need something more powerful) and it doesn't seem to be doing much. over the weekend, they got her some amoxicillin for some reason and are hoping that will kick it. my guess is it won't. but, we'll wait and see over the next 10 days, won't we?

all 3 kids are majorly into the musical "annie" right now. big sis sings the songs and pretends to be in scenes from the movie all the time. both of her little sisters have started to sing "tomorrow" which sounds something like this:

• ma-whoa. ma-whoa. uv u ma-whoa. DAAAAAAAAAY AAAAAAAAAAAA WAAAAAY!

it's pretty damn cute. they are also now pros at singing "happy birthday" and "twinkle twinkle". speaking of that, here is some cute vocab as of late:

• tinkle star: stars
• dibble dops: raindrops
• booboofull: beautiful
• buddy: buddy (we discussed how buddies are friends, so they tell me that their sisters are their buddies)
• cocky goldgolds: chocolate goldfish
• pokey dots and stipes: polka dots and stripes (and they know the difference)
• bapple pie: apple pie
• keepies: hair clips
• poppies: pony tails

it chaps my hide, too.

tell me this: why do 22 month olds need chapstick?

according to their mother it's because they like their 4 year old sister's so much that they should just have their own. without lids. because that would be dangerous.

yet no one thinks about what damage 2 small girls can create while carrying 3 sticks of chap a piece. no one thinks about how they scrape out the sticky, greasy goo from the tube and smear it on their faces and on the floor and the walls and the couch and the nanny......

what happened to telling the girls that they couldn't have chapstick until they were 4. what happened to just telling them no? where is the freaking common sense in giving 2 little girls who can't even use markers correctly 3, count them 3 chaptsticks all with the lids off at once and setting them free.

i'm thinking i'm going to let them draw on the walls with them tomorrow. or maybe ruin something that belongs to the parents. then we'll see what they think.

"special time"

i hate that phrase.

mom and dad use it here for whenever they spend time with any of the kids. this makes it seem like it's a huge deal and when the "special time" ends, there is a meltdown by whatever kids are involved.

why give it a title? why can't you just "spend time" with your kids? you're their parents. it's what you are SUPPOSED to do anyway. and if you feel that you have to label it as special, then perhaps you need to rethink your interactions with your children. if they go ape shit every time you spend time with them and melt down when you are "done" then maybe, just maybe the amount of time and the quality of that time you spend with them that i don't see isn't up to par.

i feel like if these kids were well adjusted and had fairly normal interaction with their parents, they wouldn't meltdown like they do. they wouldn't be as clingy. the 4 year old wouldn't be in tears when it comes for mom or dad to go to work after having "special time". she fully expects them to miss work for her if she throws enough of a tantrum. and what's even worse? if she worked it just a little bit more, i think they would.

to top it all off, when they do have this "special time" it is usually a big to-do that isn't well organized. they have to go have some grand adventure or squeeze some feat thought up on a whim into an undoable amount of time. ok, if you want to have some special times, plan them. otherwise, it's just called BEING A FAMILY. and if you want to do something momentous, then provide ample time, energy and resources.

at least when i hear the phrase used, i have a bit of time to gear up towards wrangling all the crying children in when the meltdown occurs.